Comparing Your Child

I know you are not supposed to compare your children, but I think it is impossible for any parent. Even if you do not have multiples, at some point your probably compared your kid to someone else’s.
Yesterday I compared Munchie and Ducky, to Ducky’s disfavor. He is six months old, and I am not seeing the same progress Munchie had made at his age. She was a slow walker (about fifteen months when she started). Before that, she was a slow crawler (13 months). But her hand eye coordination was excellent, and she was a master of fine motor skills early on.
Although Ducky became aware of his hands and feet about a month ago, he still cannot get a grasp on his hands. He waves them around frantically, trying as hard as he can to grab things and make them do what he would like them to do, to little avail. I think he may be even less coordinated than me. Which is scary since I have the depth perception of a Cyclops.
Experience is my consolation. I was terribly worried about Munchie because she wasn’t walking yet, crawling yet, talking yet, etc. And in the end she is perfectly fine and normal, and in some cases, as with her speech, advanced.
Kids learn and accelerate at different rates. But eventually they will get there. They are all going to learn to walk at some point. Ducky may never become the next Ethier, much to Hubby’s chagrin, but he will eventually figure out how to, at the very least, hold a bat.
So yes, experience is my consolation, and for those of you who do not have the experience, I will simply offer my own. Rest assured, your child will get to where they need to get, at the rate which is best for them. I am not going to tell you to stop comparing, because that is human nature, and all parents do it to some extent. But I will tell you to stop worrying. I hope this helps.
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