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4 Things Motherhood Has Taught Me

When you have children you learn basic things, such as taking care of your kid, changing a diaper, how to get an itsy bitsy onesie on an itsy bitsy baby, and so forth. However, there are some life lessons your kids will teach you that you may not have anticipated. These are some of the things motherhood has taught me:

Patience

Before you say “I already have loads of patience,” let me tell you, no you don’t. You do not have patience until a small child screams uncontrollably for three hours at night, and all you can do is hold them and hope they calm down so you can go to sleep yourself. Patience is when you are trying to perform a task that would normally take about ten minutes or less and has now dragged on for over an hour because your toddler does not feel you should be doing this particular thing.

Functioning on Little to No Sleep

I use the term “functioning” very loosely here. You are going through the motions of the day in a zombie like state, but nevertheless can perform some basic functions. Remember when you were in college and were able to go out partying until three or four in the morning, and then go to class and work the next day without missing a beat? Yeah, having kids is a lot like that, except there is no party and a lot more is expected of you. Fortunately this phase only lasts the first few months, after which, with any luck, your child is sleeping through the night for the most part.

Plans Do Not Count

I have to admit, this is still a lesson in progress for me, but I am slowly catching on. A little planning can in fact go a long way. However, for the most part, kids have a way of derailing even the best laid plans. They do not do this intentionally, and it does not necessarily happen all the time, but there are those occasions when you were planning on being somewhere at a certain time, or even going somewhere at all, and your child just would not allow this to happen (he puked all over himself and now you are late, she woke up with a fever, your babysitter cancelled on you and your destination is not kid friendly, etc.). You will eventually learn to just go with it.

Your Life Is No Longer About You

This is pretty self explanatory. In fact, if I even have to begin explaining this one, you are not ready for kids.

What have your kids taught you?

 

Casey Anthony, Please Don’t Have Another Child

In the wake of the Casey Anthony trial, despite my outrage at the verdict, and my disgust at her actions, I also feel horrified at the notion that she can in fact have more kids. She is only 25 and has many child baring years ahead of her. What if she concedes to reproduce again?

I know abortion is a touchy subject, and an entire argument onto itself, but in her case, I would definitely be pro choice. I would rather she terminate within a few months of finding out she is pregnant than perhaps chose to terminate when the child is his first years of life. Yes, I am basing this on the assumption that she murdered her daughter.

For those who believe she is innocent of murder or manslaughter, it is indisputable that she in the least negligent. To extrapolate some key findings of this case, she did not know where her child was for an entire month. If I did not know where my daughter was for even a few minutes I would begin poking around looking for her in the other rooms. My daughter is the same age as Anthony’s daughter, so this case had a very sever effect on me. If this was my daughter nowhere to be found, and in harm’s way, I would be enraged, doing everything possible to find her. I would not be out partying only a few days after she was suspected to be missing.

I just cannot get past how a missing child was overlooked. If I had as much as a fish tank and one of the goldfish was not there for even a day, I would notice. A small child is far louder, and demands a lot more attention than a fish, or even any other pet. In my opinion, if Casey Anthony wants to raise something in the future, she should stick to houseplants. When her fern dies at least no one will be surprised.

But there is still that nagging voice in the back of my head that tells me there is nothing anyone can do to stop this woman if she did chose to have another child. Clearly she does not make the best decisions and cannot seem to cope with the outcomes. Will she give motherhood another try only to once again regret it? And how much will that child suffer once she once again figures out that, yes, children do interfere with your partying, drinking, and general mayhem. If something were to happen to that child will she finally get her due punishment?